Deal breaker questions to ask

The art of asking deal-breaker questions! These are questions that can help you determine if a potential partner is compatible with you and your values, or if there are significant differences that could lead to long-term issues. Here are some examples of deal-breaker questions to ask:

Values and Beliefs

  1. What are your non-negotiable values in a relationship?
  2. How do you feel about [insert specific issue, e.g., monogamy, open relationships, etc.]?
  3. What are your beliefs about [insert specific topic, e.g., religion, politics, etc.]?
  4. How do you handle conflicts or disagreements in a relationship?

Communication and Conflict Resolution

  1. How do you communicate effectively in a relationship?
  2. What are your triggers, and how do you manage them?
  3. How do you handle criticism or feedback from your partner?
  4. What are your expectations for conflict resolution?

Emotional Intelligence and Maturity

  1. How do you handle your emotions, especially negative ones like anger or sadness?
  2. Can you describe a time when you had to apologize and make amends in a relationship?
  3. How do you prioritize self-care and emotional well-being?
  4. Are you comfortable with vulnerability and openness in a relationship?

Relationship Goals and Expectations

  1. What are your expectations for our relationship in the short-term and long-term?
  2. How do you envision our future together?
  3. What are your deal-breakers in a relationship?
  4. Are you looking for a long-term commitment, or are you open to a casual relationship?

Personal Habits and Lifestyle

  1. What are your daily habits, and how do you prioritize self-care?
  2. How do you handle stress and anxiety?
  3. Are you comfortable with [insert specific lifestyle choice, e.g., living with roommates, traveling frequently, etc.]?
  4. What are your expectations for household responsibilities and chores?

Intimacy and Trust

  1. How do you define intimacy, and what are your boundaries?
  2. Can you describe a time when you had to rebuild trust in a relationship?
  3. How do you handle jealousy or insecurity in a relationship?
  4. Are you comfortable with [insert specific intimacy-related topic, e.g., kink, polyamory, etc.]?

Remember, these questions are meant to be starting points for open and honest conversations. It's essential to approach these discussions with empathy, respect, and an open mind.