I learnt of my co wife from my husbands obituary widow

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's understandable that you're feeling shocked, confused, and possibly even betrayed by the revelation.

It's not uncommon for people to keep secrets or surprises hidden, even from those closest to them. In this case, it seems that your husband had a secret that was only revealed after his passing.

As you process this new information, it's essential to take care of yourself and prioritize your emotional well-being. You may want to consider talking to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional to help you work through your feelings and emotions.

It's also important to remember that you deserve respect, honesty, and transparency in any relationship. While you can't change the past, you can focus on moving forward and building a stronger sense of self-awareness and self-care.

If you feel comfortable, can you tell me more about your relationship with your husband and how you're feeling about this revelation? I'm here to listen and offer support.